Making sense of your birth experiences
Has anyone said to you ‘at least you have a healthy baby and that’s what’s important’?
It's usually a response from friends or birth professional to an account of a difficult or traumatic pregnancy or labour - an experience that can have lasting psychological and emotional impacts on women. If your answer is "yes", then you may benefit from a one to one session with me. I’ll listen to your birth story and between us we’ll try to unravel and make sense of the areas you feel are important.
You may be struggling to come to terms with recent pregnancy or birth or becoming pregnant again has rekindled doubts and fears because you feel your previous hurts have not been acknowledged. Perhaps you are delaying having another baby because you feel fearful or you maybe you just need an ear to hear your story. Your partner is important too and may have feel guilt that he or she could not protect you or some other emotion. They are welcome to attend the session with you if you think that’s appropriate or they can arrange a separate session.
The aim of the session is to provide a safe place to share your story with an experienced midwife who understands the importance of validating and acknowledging your personal story and has the knowledge and experience to help you make sense of what happened. The Reflection sessions can help people who have had a difficult birth experience but perhaps have insufficient or no answers to explain why was it difficult, why did it happen like that, was it necessary and could it have been different.
The sessions focus on listening to you and helping to unravel the areas you feel are important, that your experience is not overlooked. This may guide you to a better understanding of the reasons behind the interventions or the events that occurred or it might be useful because it offers you the opportunity to express dissatisfaction and sadness about the way you were treated, communicated with or that issues that were important to you were disregarded. Being heard is an important part of the journey to recovery and healing.
Please be aware this is a ‘listening and making sense’ session not a counselling or psychological therapy. I am not a qualified counsellor or Trauma therapist. I am a midwife with many years experience. I have attended over a thousand births and have a very good understanding of the challenges women face during childbirth. These sessions will not address Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) shown in the box. If you have any of the symptoms described there please seek help from your GP or a specialist therapist.
Sessions last an hour and can be face to face at Treat Norwich, West London or via Skype - I am only available for a limited number of face to face sessions at Treat every 2 months - please contact Treat Reception for availability.
Costs £40 at Treat and West London: ask if you have difficulty paying
Skype/facetime session £35: ask if you have difficulty paying